In order to continue to help this woman, it sounds like you need to continue to do exactly what you are doing. Someone like you is an invaluable resource in providing unequivocal support and comfort during this difficult time for her. With such an emotionally charged decision as giving up a baby for adoption, it is predictable that she may be having second thoughts and going through a period of intense loss and grieving. She needs to be allowed to express her thoughts and experience her feelings. Don't worry about saying or doing "the right thing" or even trying to make her happy. It will take time for her to come to terms with what has happened. It is more important that you just "be there" for her and listen to her when she does feel like talking. You can also help by noticing if her depression worsens (with appetite and sleep changes, concentration problems, or if she begins to verbalize suicidal thoughts) by steering her toward professional help as soon as possible. She is lucky to have a caring person like you in her life.