The first four months of a child?s life are critical with respect to that child making attachments to familiar and consistent care givers. While I certainly do not know the details of your son?s life, an adoption at four months suggests that there was some disruption in this process. Unfortunately, while you were well-intentioned placing him in day care, my guess is that the further separation from you that this entailed has made him more insecure. While it may be challenging to contend with a baby who has an insatiable appetite for your company and your arms, I recommend that to try to accommodate him in so far as you?re able. That is, hold him, carry him around, give him the opportunity over a substantial period of time to have the experience of stability and consistency. In the meanwhile, keep an eye on the prize: Having the opportunity to make a stable attachment with you will play a critical role in his ability to separate appropriately from you over the course of his future development. In the meanwhile, I also recommend you check with your pediatrician to ensure that there is no medical difficulty underlying all that crying."

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