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Now I've Had the Baby... Help!

Your New Life

By Linda Jenkins, RN, Childbirth Educator

Some couples feel sexual desire long before the standard four or six- week check-up. If this is the case with you, talk to your health care provider, as advice varies considerably from one to another. All are in agreement, however, that conception is possible quite soon after delivery, even though you are nursing or have not had a menstrual period. Simple means of birth control such as vaginal foam or suppositories (available at any drug store without prescription) for the woman, and/or a condom (rubber) for the male, is advisable. Although one or both partners may feel strong sexual needs before that check-up, others are often relieved to have the medical restriction. Here, again, fatigue and tension are large contributors. A candle-lit dinner out, away from the demands of baby and home, might be a delightful addition to other suggestions of intimacy already made.

Trading time with a friend in caring for each other's children may be a help. Each of you will be able to do whatever you like, be it an extra nap, or some quiet shopping. This can make a big difference in your outlook.